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Let’s get ready to COMMIT TO CONFIDENCE! In this day and age, we have to develop a firm trust in ourselves and our capabilities. You might be thinking to yourself, How can I achieve that? I’ll be honest, as I always am, finding your self-confidence can be a challenging task! Sometimes it takes years of coaching and soul-searching to get to a healthy place. I think it’s important to note that the journey to find your self-confidence comes with many twists and turns.

Keep in mind that even those who seem to be the most confident struggle as well. This is a ride that we’re all in together. Together we can plug in and charge up our confidence! Grab your favorite Galentine and head over to Spool for conversations and tools on confidence on Thursday, February 17th from 10am-12pm PT in person at Spool for our Self Love = Self Care = Self Confidence Workshop! Love and commit to yourself. Step into your power so you can create more success in your life. When we love ourselves, we open ourselves to love from others. Learn tools to help you overcome imposter syndrome and gain more self love with tools like a ritual and routine to be more self confident.

I can specifically remember when I transitioned from the entertainment industry and advertising to packaged goods and product development marketing. It was a significant shift in my career. I was so unaware of what I did not know and the competitive environment I had joined. When I looked at my schedule, it was jam packed with meetings from 9-5pm in 4 different buildings, but not one colleague would stop to shepherd me through the on-boarding process. Sink or swim to say the least..

I knew I needed to rely upon my strengths to guide me through this experience, subconsciously. At that time I had no idea my strengths were my deep ability to connect, be vulnerable and build trust. To ask the right questions to allow someone to be heard... I remember calling my sister and saying “I’m not sure I’m good enough” and repeating that statement. That’s HUGE! She responded to me STOP you are amazing–now get off the phone and show up. You are just as good as any of your coworkers, if not better because you are strong and determined. I decided I needed to find my allies to help me learn and thrive in this company. I scheduled a 15 minute meet and greet with my entire team of over 60 people so I could gain an understanding of their role and how my role integrated with theirs. It was the best thing I ever did as we both endeared ourselves to each other learning and growing together.

We are all valuable enough and gifted in unique and different ways. It's about owning our gifts and leveraging each other’s strengths–listening, collaboration and communication. Confidence comes from stepping into uncomfortable spaces, not playing it safe, and challenging yourself to be vulnerable. Make mistakes and learn from them to grow more knowledgeable. It comes from committing to the experience and bringing forward shared wisdom.

THREE Tips to Help Power Up Your Confidence

  1. Find Your Community - Did you know that according to a study done by Northwestern University and Notre Dame University, 75% of women in the workforce belong to a women’s group? Talk about women supporting women! One of the best tips that I give to anyone who is finding their self-confidence is finding your community. FIND YOUR TRIBE! If you’re wondering how you can find a fantastic, collaborative, supportive community, I’ve got the inside scoop! EmpowHer Purpose is launching their MembHership Community right now, with our first meeting occurring on February 16th! Let’s get together to GROW as we celebrate each other. Join us at our Self Love = Self Care = Self Confidence Workshop at Spool on February 10th from 10 AM - 12 PM PST!

  2. Set Your Goals - We’ve talked about vision boarding and other ways of setting your goals, but how does this relate to self-confidence? Next time you participate in a meeting or event that challenges your confidence, try to remember why you are there. What is the purpose of the meeting? What are your qualifications? Run through these questions and answers in your mind. Try to visualize your purpose and then enact it! Prepare yourself mentally so that you are ready to go into any situation with full confidence in yourself. Listen to our Opportunity Knocks Podcast to learn more about how successful women set and followed up on their goals.

  3. Be Honest - You know what they say: Honesty is the best policy! I think we can take that a step further by being honest with ourselves. Sometimes it can be challenging to feel confident. Try to practice affirming your abilities. Take a look in the mirror and state the positive qualities that make you so powerful! Really think about What Makes You Shine. If you don’t know where to start, try repeating these three affirmations: I am driven. I am a valuable member of my family/team/ friend group. I am worthy.

Whenever one of my loved ones comes to me saying they’re stressed, I like to remind them to breathe and return to their breath. Everything we do starts with our breath. Oftentimes, when we’re stressed, we hold all of that inside ourselves and physically hold our breath. Let me tell you, this only makes the stress worse! When you find yourself feeling more anxious, or when you are looking to practice self-care, try to take a deep breath to recenter your mind. It is scientifically proven that it only takes 16 seconds to shift your brain. That’s 3 deep intentional breaths. Let’s try it together now!

Hold...Slowly Breathe in...1...2...3. Hold it at the top for two breaths 1...2... Breath out slowly...1...2...3. Slowly Breathe in...1...2...3. Hold it at the top for two breaths 1...2...Breathe out slowly...1...2...3.

Breathe in...1...2...3. Hold it 1...2...Breathe out...1...2...3.

How are you feeling now? I must share with you there are so many benefits to deep breaths or perhaps even better starting a meditation practice.

Regardless of where you are in your journey to find your self-confidence, I hope that these tips and tricks helped inspire you to keep moving forward. Sometimes we might experience bumps in our road, but always remember that you have a community of people ready to walk alongside you and help power up your confidence!

Be well.

All my best,

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Did you know that a study by KPMG found that 67% of women reported that they felt they needed help building confidence in order to become leaders?When we love ourselves, we open ourself to love from others. Learn tools to help you overcome imposter syndrome and gain more self love with tools like a ritual and routine. More information here!

  • Thursday, February 17th,

  • 10 AM - 12 PM

  • In person at Spool


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